Today’s episode sits right at the edge of something both deeply personal and profoundly political: female desire. Not the version we’ve inherited filtered through patriarchy, shame, and silence, but the messy, expansive, often contradictory realities of what it actually means to want.
Because for so many women and queer people, desire isn’t just about attraction. It’s shaped by power, by culture, by trauma, by the quiet and loud ways we’ve been taught to disconnect from our bodies or perform them for someone else. So what does it mean to come back to ourselves? To reclaim desire not as something we owe, but something we author?
I’m joined today by Sarah Barmak, a journalist and author who has spent years exploring the science, psychology, and lived experience of female sexuality. Together, we’re queering the idea that desire is fixed, linear, or even fully knowable. We talk about the myths we’ve internalized, the realities we rarely name, and the radical potential of redefining pleasure on our own terms.
This conversation is about curiosity over certainty, embodiment over performance, and the courage it takes to ask: what do I actually want when no one else is watching?
