In this episode, I’m joined by writer Lilly Dancyger, whose essay collection First Love refuses neat conclusions about desire, grief, addiction, and becoming. In these essays, love is both salvation and destruction, clarity and confusion — and Dancyger lets those tensions breathe.
We explore how queering reality means resisting the cultural pressure to simplify our stories, how embracing ambiguity disrupts patriarchal certainty, and why paradox might be the most honest place to begin.
